Prayers for Ashley

My estranged daughter of 12 years, reached out to me yesterday. She sent me a letter with her contact info asking that I give her my contact info. Since it was early afternoon, I emailed her back my info (not knowing if she was at work or what). I thought the request was a bit odd, since my ex wife had all my info, as well as, her Grandmother had my info too.

Within 5 minutes of hitting the send button, my phone rang. It was Ashley. We talked for about 20 minutes, catching up, as it where. I finally told her that although I was ecstatic that she had contacted me, I was a little curious as to why after 12 years she contacted me.

She started by telling me her Grand Father died about 18 months ago. Then she went into some detail about how her Mom's husband had a heart attack and a quadruple bypass. Next she talked about how after getting over the surgery, he began to feel his own mortality and decided he needed to reestablish a bond with his estranged children. And how he felt the only way to do that was to leave her mother.

Next she told me how her mother, my ex-wife, had been diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease (she got this diagnosis at age 50), and how Parkinson's had killed her grand father. She then went on to tell me about her "talks" with her mom about all the mistakes her mom had made in her life and specifically how her brother, my son, was only her half brother. I had long suspected my son was not indeed my blood son, but, it never occurred to me to love him less. At this point she told me that she started to take a look at her life as well and realized that her and her son (Surprise, I'm a grand father), were lucky to have this opportunity to evaluate their lives.

Then came the final bomb of information. In May my ex-wife took her own life with a gun. Apparently, my ex, a very strong women, decided that she was not going to go through the same horrible death her father did and got her affairs in order and calmly took her life. She liquidated all of her assets and put the money in two accounts for my daughter and son. She did this because she was afraid her last husband would not take care of them. After that she legally purchased a hand gun and ammo. She sat one morning, drank her morning tea and read the paper. When she finished her tea, she put her feet up on a foot stool, crossed her legs and killed herself. My version of these events is based on police information relayed to me by my daughter. But more importantly, if is how I would imagine my ex, once she set her mind to taking her life, would of carried it out.

The afternoon of the day she killed herself, Ashley received a Fedex package that contained paperwork showing how to access all the money her mom left them and what her wishes where concerning her remains. The package also contained a suicide note stating that "she was not going out in Parkinson's terms but her own". Ashley tried to call her mom, with no luck. She then called the police and asked they check on her and drove to her mom's house, 45 minute drive. When she got there the house was crime scene as it was an unattended death. I guess the silver lining here is that Ashley didn't discover the body.

There's not much us mere mortals can do in this situation, but, I believe in the power of prayer. I ask for prayers for peace for my daughter, my son, my newly discovered grand son and my ex mother in law. My ex was a christian, so she's with her Father in heaven, in that I take solace.

The good news, if there can be any in all this, is that my Daughter and I agreed that we needed to stay in touch with each other. I also ask for your prayers, that if it's God's will, that will happen. Since my daughter lives in Texas, I guess I'll have reason to go there in the future.

Fuzzy, I will add Ashley to my prayer list and it is good news that you have your daughter back and congrats on the grandchild.

I have no words...except I will keep your requests in my prayers.

Wow Fuzzy, I too am at a lose for words. Will lift your requests in prayer.

Fuzzy, sending prayers for you and your family. I hope you can have a great relationship with your daughter and Grandson and get lots of opportunity to spend time being a 'Grand Father'.

Prayers for you and family. Stay Strong Fuzzy

Prayers for you Fuzzy, I'm at a loss for words also.

Prayers for you and your family. May all affected find peace... God bless.

Ashley will be in my prayers for sure Fuzzy!!!

Very sorry to hear this about your ex man.

I'll be praying for both of you.

Prayers going out for all of you.

Thanks so much for the kind words and especially for your prays ... 2016 has not been my favorite so far .. I know God would never bring me to anything that He wasn't willing to bring me through. This year as taught me a new mantra ... "His Grace is Sufficient"

[QUOTE=FuzzyWuzHe;372617]Thanks so much for the kind words and especially for your prays ... 2016 has not been my favorite so far .. I know God would never bring me to anything that He wasn't willing to bring me through. This year as taught me a new mantra ... "His Grace is Sufficient"[/QUOTE]
You're a better man than I.

Where we are at this moment is where we are suppose to be. Prayers. Jim

I can't help think that God is teaching me something. I first thought that he was teaching me to "Surrender". After all, I've always had issues with that. The bankruptcy and company issues brought me to my knees. I did all that I could, and then had to surrender to his will. In this situation, I can do nothing, except pray for my daughter and all her loved ones ... I'm thinking that's the point ... to get me to pray about things ... Long before I do what I can. Some times it takes me being smacked in the back of my head to get my attention.

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prayers on there way

Your daughter is reaching out to you and this is your moment to be her strength ending the estrangement. It always gets darkest before the light. Prayers lifted for both of you in this difficult transformation you both are experiencing. Faith is an awesome power.

Fuzzy, you amaze me. I'd like to say I'm speechless, but I can't...only because there's something I really need to tell you. My own mother told me this shortly before cancer got her, and it's something she said I would need to pass on often to many people:

God never gives us more than we can handle. The road ahead may seem dark, but that is only because we aren't letting Him light the way. Surrender to Him, and give all your fears and cares to him, and he will make you a stronger man.

God bless, and yes, of course prayers for you, Ashley and your son. May He hold you safely in his arms.

"And when asked how much He loved you, Jesus spread His arms wide and replied, 'This much.' And then He died."

[QUOTE=Shadow Dreamer;372938]God never gives us more than we can handle. The road ahead may seem dark, but that is only because we aren't letting Him light the way. Surrender to Him, and give all your fears and cares to him, and he will make you a stronger man.[/QUOTE]

^^This!^^

[QUOTE=consitter;372653]You're a better man than I.[/QUOTE]


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You're s special person Fuzzy.....ThumbUp