Alan, try one of these methods yourself before you give up and buy a coder reader...
Method 1: Resetting Oil Change Indicator Without starting the engine, turn the ignition in the ON/RUN mode*position. In the instrument cluster display, navigate to “Vehicle Info” then “Oil Life.” Push and hold the ‘OK’ button until the oil life*gauge resets to 100%.
Method 2: Resetting Oil Change Indicator Without starting the engine, turn the ignition in the ON/RUN mode position. Fully press the accelerator pedal three times within ten seconds. Place the ignition in the OFF/LOCK position.
If the indicator message is still lit after following either method, the oil change indicator system did not reset. If*this happens, carefully repeat the procedure. It’s important to note that the engine oil change indicator system is duty cycle based. That means the engine oil change interval may fluctuate based on your personal driving habits.
I use method 2 on my Ram 1500 truck all the time.